Quit Like A Woman by Holly Whitaker

"At once a groundbreaking look at drinking culture and a road map to cut out alcohol. You will never look at drinking the same way again." - Holly Whitaker.

Those are the quotes I was read behind the book "Quit Like A Woman" written by Holly Whitaker. Yes, it is about alcohol, drinking, and addiction.

Released : 09 January 2020

Genre : Autobiography

Publisher : Bloomsbury

Size : 5.8 x 8.3 inches

Format : Paperback

Language : English

Well, I'm not a drinker or alcoholic. As Muslims, we are prohibited from using anything alcohol-related except alcohol sanitizer since covid-19 attacked us worldwide. Maybe I shall say, "can use alcohol products only in an emergency situation?"

Hm. I don't want to discuss that right now. Maybe later. There is the reason I wanted to read this book so much. Since I was born in a drinkers community in my hometown, I was curious why they love the drink so much even though it's may detrimental for themself and others.

I also read this book because the title attracted me. Is woman better than man? Does man have trouble stopping drinking because they are men? Why and what is makes them difficult to quit drinking?

" Quit Like A Woman " is written by Holly Whitaker. She is the founder and CEO of Tempest (formerly Hip Sobriety). With years of experience in the fields of healthcare and tech. She also created a human-centered recovery modality and virtual platform offering education, community, and support services in 2014. Holly has been featured in the New York Times, Vogue, and TechCrunch and was named in Inc’s 2019 Female Founders 100 List. Holly is a writer and bestselling author of Quit Like A Woman, a memoir/self-help book about her own recovery. She lives in Brooklyn with her cat Mary Katherine.

This book is about obsession and addiction. To be specific, the book tells the reader some people are obsessed with alcohol because it is a culture. Drinking is something cool to do after work. Drinking is something fun to do as an adult. Drinking is a lifestyle for them.

They also thought drinking is a must-do list because we might look like a boring person without it. Same situation to a smoker that thinks they look so cool smoking without thinking it might destroy themself or others.

At the unconscious point, addicted people might not realize their life are blended with alcohol. The alcohol became their blood. Running in their veins and dominate their body, heart, and brain. Alcohol conquers their life path. Their future might be baffled. The work performance and productivity may disturb at any time.  When they feel stressed, depressed, sad, mad, almost every emotion they feel, they will find alcohol. They can not live without it. They thought alcohol helped them to be happy.

When they mess up with problems, they do not want to face them. They chose alcohol to forget all the misfortune that bothered them. They never realize they are destroying their brain, body, health, mind, finances, and everything each time they get drunk. Even a glass of alcohol destroys their body slowly.

They never notice that their alcohol dependence can make destructive bombs. The bombs will explode at any time at any point in their life.

What I write about this book is only a little information. There are so many engaging topics in this book that will be blowing your mind regarding addiction, smoking, alcoholism, and more.

Holly Whitaker also included the prime key in this book for those searching for a way to break the cycle of addiction. It's may look hard.

This book was written based on a true story. It was an authentic experience from the author. The writing point of view is the first person (" i "). So, the readers may understand better why they became addicted thru this story. Why do they always keep the stock of wine or beers at home? Holly Whitaker has the answers.

I can see how difficult to alcoholic people to stop being alcoholics. Especially when they are from the lifestyle-alcohol-normal community. Drinking is a culture. From the parties, events, celebrations, and hangouts, alcohol is something that can not skip.

The author also shows you how alcohol makes the existing problem worst. For example, drinking can destroy performance at work or in personal life. Alcohol is not just a drunk liquid. It is poison based on the book on page 26.

"Until I realized that oh my fucking God, it's actually poison. We're all drinking poison."

The author tells the reader that as long as you keep drinking, every effort of exercise, eating clean, drinking clean water, and having enough sleep is useless.

This book is very instructive to the reader. Can you imagine? Alcoholic people can not distinguish between Borderline Personality Disorder symptoms and alcoholic issues because alcohol addiction can mimic other mental illnesses, especially BPD. - page 70.

I was enjoyed this book so much. Amazingly, the author attached a very beneficial knowledge such as "The short-to Medium-term Effects of Drinking alcohol on page 31.

One of the info very attracted my attention. That is about alcohol is fuels anxiety. It is proof existing issues will be worst.

There are so many things I wanted to share about the greatness of this book but... I think it's better you read it by yourself. It's can help you a lot if you wanted to stop your bad addiction to something.

As a Muslim, I'm living in a non-alcoholic community. But still, there is a group of people who choose to be a drinker and believe that drinking alcohol is healthy. When I was a kid, some elders said alcohol is medicine. But when I asked, what kind of meds? What illnesses of meds? No one gives me an answer.

I really hope the messages from this book will be delivered to every drinker. I also wish they understand how alcohol takes over their beautiful life. I hope they can see that without alcohol is better. Much better almost at every aspect of your life.

A drinker who really wanted to stop drinking will inspire by this book. Stop something we obsess about is hard. Very hard. This book tells all the readers, do not to give up. If you fail, try again. If you fall, rise up again!

It's okay to be unique. It's okay if your friends unfriend you because you are not the old version anymore. It's okay. You should proud of yourself because you did something remarkable for yourself. Believe it or not, you will have great people that value your new version. Trust the process.

Your physical and mental health is your responsibility not to impress others. It's your happiness, not others. Regret is a bad feeling to feel. Do not wait until we regret it.

I really like the part "What Happens in our Bodies When We Drink a Single Glass of Alcohol" in this book. Can you imagine? It's just a glass but it can affect your body! On page 29, it is stated that alcohol is linked to at least 7 types of cancer. It is a nightmare!

Talking about mental health, I actually laughed when I read the below sentences on page 70.

"Why the fuck was being diagnosed with a mental illness so much more hopeful than being diagnosed an alcoholic?"

People sometimes being denial and fight to make them right. In the Malay proverb; 'menegakkan benang yang basah'. They just can't accept the reality.

I also agree with Holly Whitaker when she said,

" What I want to know is why. Why are we so mad at everything and not mad at alcohol is doing to us, or how Big Alcohol lines its pockets from our exploitation and death? Why are we not raging against all the oppressive and absolutely murderous ways alcohol shows up in women's lives, our kids' lives, our sisters' lives, in LGBTQIA community, in communities of people of  color or Indigenous people? Why do we fight so hard to transcend our collective oppression, then willingly give parts of the power back after marching for our rights, with a glass or two or the whole damn bottle?"

Why? Yeah I also questioned this a very long time ago. Why? Maybe you have the answers. Feel free to drop your comment below.

In conclusion, I love all the content of this book. Very much. It really helps people. If you need help with your addiction, I suggest you read this book.

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Quichotte - Salman Rushdie

This time, I want to review a book by another format or style. I want to share my review by divide it into three parts. Part one, two and, three. So, this article is part one. The thickness of Quichotte by Salman Rushdie is challenging for me because of the language (English). Despite that, I'm proud of myself because I have improved my English by reading an English novel. I'm wrong all this time when I thought it was really hard. I don't know until I did it. Hahaha. (But, I knew there are mistaken/error in my writing now...I hope readers still can understand my point. I'll learn more to improve my grammar and English writing).

Who is Salman Rushdie? What is Quichotte About? Quichotte by Salman Rushdie review by Malaysian Book Blogger.
Released : 2019
Genre : Fiction Novel
Publisher : Jonathan Cape
Size : 15.3x12.5
Format : Paperback
Language : English
Okay, back to Quichotte. Now, I'm on page 158. I amazed when I have so many things to comment about the book. I think it will be a long article. So, I decided to write the review by part to part. Okay, let's get started!

After I read the book bit by bit, page by page, and chapter to chapter, I interested to know who is the author. When I'm reading, I don't really choose who is the writer. I always look at the topics/titles or the content of the book. Sometimes, I just read without checking the content list or synopsis. Because I want to appreciate the author's message in her/his writing. And...I'll read everything and anything. I don't care who they are.

But this time, Quichotte keeps me thinking who is the writer. Why he wrote this way. Why he talked a lot about India/Indian? Why he has a lot of information regarding 'brown people'? Why he wrote a lot about ISIS, terrorists and etc. Because of curiosity, I decided to get to know more about Salman Rushdie.

Who is Salman Rushdie? What is Quichotte About? Quichotte by Salman Rushdie review by Malaysian Book Blogger.


Salman Rushdie is a British-Indian novelist best known for the novel Midnight's Children in 1981 and The Satanic Verses in 1988. His writing in The Satanic Verses has accused him of blasphemy against Islam. In 1989 the Ayatollah Ruhollah Khomeini of Iran issued a fatwa ordering Muslims to kill him. I'm shocked by this information. What in my mind about him now? I don't take the negative thoughts or bad issues in a book or the author. But, I'm pretty sure some people in a certain country especially in the world of modern literature, Rushdie remain the stigma of the anti-Islam author. It must difficult to dissolve the stigma attached.

He was born on June 19, 1947, in Bombay (now it's called Mumbai), India. I just know this! The changing of the city's name? How did that happen? Based on my reading, renaming Mumbai from Bombay is happening in 1995. You can read A Brief History Of How Bombay Became Mumbai.

The only son of a wealthy Indian businessman and a school teacher, Rushdie was educated at a Bombay private school before attending The Rugby School, a boarding school in Warwickshire, England. He went on to attend King's College at the University of Cambridge, where he studied history. Read his biography to know more about him. I got a point! he studied history. So, no wonder he very expert writing historical fiction.


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  1. Midnight's Children (1981) - Midnight's Children is a loose allegory for events in India both before and, primarily, after the independence and partition of India. The protagonist and narrator of the story is Saleem Sinai, born at the exact moment when India became an independent country. He was born with telepathic powers, as well as an enormous and constantly dripping nose with an extremely sensitive sense of smell. The novel is divided into three books.[Read More]
  2. Shame (08 September 1983) - This story takes place in a town called "Q" which is actually a fictitious version of Quetta, Pakistan. In Q, one of the three sisters (Chunni, Munnee, and Bunny Shakil) gives birth to Omar Khayyám Shakil, but they act as a unit of mothers, never revealing to anyone who is Omar's birth mother. In addition, Omar never learns who his father is. While growing up, Omar lives in purdah with his three mothers and yearns to join the world. As a birthday present, Omar Khayyám Shakil's "mothers" allow him to leave Q. He enrolls in a school and is convinced by his tutor (Eduardo Rodriguez) to become a doctor. Over time, he comes in contact with both Iskander Harappa and General Raza Hyder.[Read More]
  3. The Satanic Verses (1988) - The Satanic Verses consists of a frame narrative, using elements of magical realism, interlaced with a series of sub-plots that are narrated as dream visions experienced by one of the protagonists. The frame narrative, like many other stories by Rushdie, involves Indian expatriates in contemporary England. The two protagonists, Gibreel Farishta and Saladin Chamcha, are both actors of Indian Muslim background. Farishta is a Bollywood superstar who specialises in playing Hindu deities. (The character is partly based on Indian film stars Amitabh Bachchan and N. T. Rama Rao.) Chamcha is an emigrant who has broken with his Indian identity and works as a voiceover artist in England.[Read More]
  4. Haroun And The Sea of Stories (27 September 1990) - At the beginning of the story, protagonist Haroun Khalifa lives with his father Rashid, a famous storyteller, and his mother Soraya, until the latter is seduced by their neighbor 'Mr. Sengupta' to leave home. Thereafter Rashid is hired to speak on behalf of local politicians but fails his initial assignment. The two are thence conveyed to the 'Valley of K' by courier 'Mr. Butt', to speak for 'Snooty Buttoo', another politician. Attempting to sleep aboard Buttoo's yacht, Haroun discovers 'Iff the Water Genie', assigned to detach Rashid's imagination, and demands conversation against this decision with Iff's supervisor, the Walrus. They are then carried to the eponymous 'Sea of Stories' by an artificial intelligence in the form of a hoopoe, nicknamed 'Butt' after the courier. Of the Sea of Stories, Haroun learns it is endangered by antagonist 'Khattam-Shud,' who represents "the end." [Read More]
  5. Imaginary Homelands (1991) - collection of essays written by Salman Rushdie covering a wide variety of topics. In addition to the title essay, the collection also includes "'Commonwealth Literature' Does Not Exist".Salman Rushdie's “Imaginary Homelands” is an essay that propounds an antiessentialist view of place.[Read More]
  6. East, West (1994) - anthology of short stories by Salman Rushdie. The book is divided into three main sections, entitled "East", "West", and "East, West", each section containing stories from their respective geographical areas (in the "East, West" section both worlds are influenced by each other). [Read More]
  7. The Moor's Last Sigh (1995) - The Moor's Last Sigh traces four generations of the narrator's family and the ultimate effects upon the narrator. The narrator, Moraes Zogoiby, traces his family's beginnings down through time to his own lifetime. Moraes, who is called "Moor" throughout the book, is an exceptional character, whose physical body ages twice as fast as a normal person's does and also has a deformed hand. The book also focusses heavily on the Moor's relationships with the women in his life, including his mother Aurora, who is a famous national artist; his first female tutor; his three older sisters, Ina, Minnie and Mynah; and his first love, a charismatic, demented sculptor named Uma. Salman Rushdie mentions William Babington Macauley in this novel.[Read More]
  8. The Golden House (5 September 2017) - The Golden House is a 2017 novel by Salman Rushdie. The novel, his eleventh, is set in Mumbai and New York.[Read More]
  9. The Ground Beneath Her Feet (April 1999) - The title is taken from a song in the novel, composed by Ormus Cama after Vina's death. The lyrics to the song, with minor changes, were adapted and recorded by U2. The song was used in the 2000 film The Million Dollar Hotel, and the promotional music video featured Rushdie in a cameo appearance.[Read More]
  10. Joseph Anton: A Memior (September 2012) - Rushdie used "Joseph Anton" as a pseudonym while in hiding following the fatwa that had been issued by Ayatollah Khomeini, the spiritual and political leader of the Islamic Republic of Iran, in the midst of criticism by some Muslims and a widespread controversy over Rushdie's novel The Satanic Verses (1988). He chose the name to honor the writers Joseph Conrad and Anton Chekhov. Rushdie was annoyed when police officers called him by the more casual nickname, "Joe." The memoir is an account of his life under the ongoing fatwa.[Read More]

Who is Salman Rushdie? What is Quichotte About? Quichotte by Salman Rushdie review by Malaysian Book Blogger.

Quichotte is a novel inspired by the classic novel title Don Quixote de la Mancha. Don Quixote published in 1605. Written by Miguel de Cervantes. He is from Spain. The original title is El Ingenioso Hidalgo Don Quijote de la Mancha. The book is divided into three books. In 1612, it was published in English for part one. Then, published in 1620 for the rest.

This novel genre is historical fiction or realism fiction. Because readers can find out the real history in the book. For example, the main character, Ismail Smile (Quichotte) was born in Bombay. There an explanation on page 29 about the city was "not called that now" in the bracket.

Many, many years ago, when the sea was clean and the night was safe, there was a road called Warden Road (not called that anymore) in a neighborhood called Breach Candy (still called that, more or less) in a city called Bombay (not called that now). - Page 29

Besides the readers reading to assess the character's feelings, emotions, crisis, and the situations, readers also can learn and increase the knowledge from the book. I love this book for those reasons. Other than history, Salman Rushdie also includes topics about mental health, psychology, racist issues, terrorist problem, the entertainment industry, and I'm sure there are more interesting topics in the book in my next reading (page 159 until the end).

The main story is about the journey of Quichotte and his son, Sancho pursuit his true love, Salma R. But it is not about romance at all... It is more than we think!

Who is Salman Rushdie? What is Quichotte About? Quichotte by Salman Rushdie review by Malaysian Book Blogger.

[PART 1]

The point of view of this novel is more than one POV. From chapter one until five, the POV is Third Person. In chapter six, the POV was changed to First Person. Salman Rushdie made Sancho as a narrator and the readers watch the story unfold through Sancho's eyes. Then, back to the Third Person in chapter seven.

As far as I've read the story (chapter one until ten), I was enjoyed the plot especially in part related to the character name Salma R and her background. Salma R's life reminds me of Marilyn Monroe and Gia but most similar to Marilyn Monroe. Salma R as known as Oprah 2.0, is a woman that Ismail Smile obsessed with.

When I trying to understand Ismail Smile's feeling of Salma R, I was like...' Ahh? no way...this is insane!'. Is the act of loving someone (deeply/crazily) who doesn't know us are worth it?

Let me share my comments on the chapter by chapter.

Chapter 1

In chapter one, the author introduced the main character of the novel. In the beginning, I have already begun to think that the book will be discussed about mental illness. But I'm not sure what is the type of mental illness yet. So, the question of this book is related to psychology topics. However, I was confused in the middle of the chapter when...

he had been seized long ago and now returned by the aliens in the mothership hiding in the sky above the meteors... - Page 17

Quichotte found his son from the future. What? Is the book genre are science fiction?

Chapter 2

My confusion was increasing in chapter two when the author introduced the character named Sam Duchamp. My reading got intense. My mind got chaos. I have to solve my puzzles. What? Who is Sam? Is he Quichotte? Who is Brother? Are they (Sam and Quichotte) siblings? There is no name for certain characters.

I keep reading and I found out that Sam Duchamp is a novelist. The shocking episode in this chapter is how Sam's father dead. Oh my god! Why? that's pathetic!

I think Sam and Quichotte are sick/mentally/crazy/insane. Hhuhu... But, yes... Sam is unwell.

...then Brother's anxieties were close to triggering a flight response. He wanted to run but didn't know where or how, which made him more fearful still...- Page 23

Sam has an anxiety disorder. His mental health occurred perhaps of the bully events while he was a child. Everyone knows bullying has a bad effect on young people. They'll bring those experiences for the rest of their life.

Back to the characters. What does Sam Duchamp have to do with Quichotte?

Chapter 3

At the beginning (Chapter one and two), I just liked this book as usual; a book. Once I get to chapter three, I started to fall in love with this novel. More than 'just like'. I flutter when I read about Salma R. I'm was curious. I want to know about the character more. I want to dig Salma R's story. I was wondering. Did I now become Quichotte? Interested in Salma R? Haha. What is her specialty until Quichotte willingly travels for the pursuit of her?

In chapter three, also the topics of mental health featured by the author. Severe mental illness can cause suicide. That's not in a fiction story only because that happened in real life.

These mental things in chapter three pulled me to keep reading about Salma R. Felt like can't stop reading. In my thought, that must be awesome when she is the main character. Hahaha.

Maybe her spirit was more adventurous than she knew. Maybe there was something in her that wanted to test itself against the challenges of the wider world...- Page 44

Same like chapter two, the story is about her dysfunctional relationship in the family. Based on my reading in this chapter, she looked optimistic and charismatic person. Her characteristic is attractive. Now I understand why Quichotte obsessed with her.

Chapter 4

I was carried away with Sam Duchamp's sister's life story. When I looked her way when she was angry, I think she also has a mental problem. Oh my god! It was like every character I accused being mentally ill. Hahaha. What a thought. But, based on my reading, I imagine the way she angry was looked like the green Marvel character; HULK...smash! smash! smash! hahaha.

Sam's sister's story made me reflect on my own past. But, her character was a little bit the same as Joker. The DC movie's character. She rebelled for not being able to pursue her dream. I don't know yet, but I think there are reasons why her parent hasn't allow her to do what she wants to.

In this chapter, I was touched by the sibling's relationship are increasingly mute. They don't want to get in touch. They obviously dominated by egoism. Honest, I don't really like her. I don't like this character. She seems manipulator. Toxic person.

Chapter 5

It's about a doctor. Quichotte's cousin. I'm not sure what is my thought about this chapter. It looks like I'm reading mindlessly. Perhaps, I don't understand the context. Let me guess...is it about the political scandal? Is he a scammer? I also think he was cheated on his wife.

Chapter 6

The perspective in this chapter changed to the First-Person POV. The readers watching the story through Sancho's eyes. Quichotte's Son. So, the readers will see the words "I," "me," or "we." in this chapter.

I'm in the middle of between believe and disbelieve that Sancho exists. Perhaps it exists in an unreal way; in Quichotte's head? Well, in chapter one, Sancho has arrived with an Alien ship. Haha.

I guess I have to call him Dad. But here's the thing. How am I supposed to feel properly what's the word. Filial. When we just met. I didn't grow up with him...- Page 82

However, in this chapter, Sancho can tell the readers a lot of the stories regarding Quichotte. Almost everything. Including his mind, his thoughts, his plans, and his history.

Sancho knows Quichotte's stories with details even though they just met. Sancho and Quichotte are puzzle characters. That's the element that made this novel super interesting.

Chapter 7

There is a hilarious part in this chapter. Sancho talked with a cricket. For me, it was so cute for someone talking to an animal. But it's so funny to talk with insects. Talking to cricket? I was thought, "Oh? That's Sancho's pet?"

Then, I was surprised when I got to know that it can talk. I was like, "what? talking insect!" For your information, it has a name. Italian name. That makes me laugh again. And then, Sancho can vanish it like magic after the cricket told him about the insula.

"That is correct," said the cricket, "he wants you to be fully human as badly as you do. He imagines it all the time. And to get you there, he will need to give you an insula." - Page 101

This chapter very entertaining to the readers (or maybe only me?).

Chapter 8

The author brings the readers back to Salma R's life story. This time, it's more details about the dark side of her. From my perspective, it was terrible. It's like you witness a beautiful lifestyle in social media but secrets are hiding beneath.

Other than that, even it was a terrifying story but still I as the reader feel sympathy for the character's condition. Do you hear about Electroconvulsive Therapy? The other names are electroshock therapy.

I have watched "Girl Interrupted" movie. That movie is a1999 American psychological drama film based on Susanna Kaysen's 1993 memoir about her stay at a mental institution. Her friend, Lisa Rowe (played by Angelina Jolie) diagnosed as a sociopath. She is charismatic, manipulative, rebellious and abusive. So, she often treated with electroconvulsive therapy.

In this chapter, the author more discusses the mental treatment of Salma R.

...He was the man who knew too much. He had helped her cover up a scandal that could have derailed her career. - Page 115

Another thing about this chapter; I wonder what caused her boyfriend's death?

Chapter 9

More about the political story. Some of the paragraphs are bored for me. But not everything in the chapter is boring. The part that makes me engage in this chapter is about discrimination based on skin color. Also, about Anti-Muslim sentiment in the West. Are they really suffer Islamophobic?

"You people wear beards and turbans, right? You shave your face and take the headgear off to fool us? T u r b a n s," she repeated slowly, making a swirling turban gesture around her head. - Page 126

Chapter 10

The story still about white people's racial attitudes but worse than in chapter 9. It has involving death and injury of brown people. I think that nonsense. But, it's happened in real life; in reality. This kind of situation disturbing the main character to focus his expedition and the readers. Huhu. Crazy.

"fucking Iranians," and "terrorists," asking them if their status was legal, and screaming, "Get out of my country." It was less than twelve hours since Quichotte and Sancho had been screamed at in the same words, and so, to their shame, they retreated into a corner and stood in the shadows. - Page 144

Unexpectedly, Sancho also has the time to fascinated with beautiful from beautiful.

Beautiful from beautiful. (Page 150)

Who is Salman Rushdie? What is Quichotte About? Quichotte by Salman Rushdie review by Malaysian Book Blogger.

Salman Rushdie is a very detailed person. He knows how to write a current affair in the novel. Besides presenting his fiction stories. There is a lot of information I got from the book. From history until science. Including the entertainment industry, movies, songs, and many more. Almost every chapter I learned new things. About the theme, I still in my efforts to reading for solving the puzzle of the story.

Okay, my review will stop here. I'll share more in Part 2 and 3. See you again. Thank you so much for reading my articles and I'm sorry if there are mistakes of grammar or anything in this article.

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What I'm Observe?(Apa Yang Saya Perhatikan?) - Syed Faiz

I have read this book in 2019 (23 December 2019). I bought this book in 2016 if I'm not mistaken. So, why I bought this book? I bought this book because of the title. The observes verb. OBSERVES in the Malay language is PERHATIKAN. The perhatikan on the book's title was written like this; perHATIkan. The H A T I is in capital letters and bold for a purpose. That HATI is mean HEART in English. So, I eager to know the content because the voice in my head said, "Hey! what the relation between heart and observation?" Wahaha...

What I'm Observe?(Apa Yang Saya Perhatikan?) - Syed Faiz | After I read this book, I wonder If I observe people and situations by heart | Book Review | Malaysian Book Blog | Malaysian Bookish | Malaysian Book Reviewer
Released : 2013
Genre : Non-Fiction / Self-Help
Publisher : Right Book
Size : 17.7x12cm
Format : Paperback
Language : Malay

I finished my reading on this book for 24 hours. That's because the book is in the Malay language and I think, it less than three thousand words.

What I'm Observe?(Apa Yang Saya Perhatikan?) - Syed Faiz | After I read this book, I wonder If I observe people and situations by heart | Book Review | Malaysian Book Blog | Malaysian Bookish | Malaysian Book Reviewer

The book's front cover shows people that the book's contents are revealing fifty-three secrets of rich people sustain being rich even richer. After I read that phrase, my mind immediately recalled the popular cartoon called Spongebob because the sound is like Mr.Krab reveals his precious secret recipe to Plankton. Haha.

The book was written by Syed Faiz in 2013. Based on the book's information; about the author/writer section, he is the student of Dr. Azizan Osman. So, his background is related to business or marketing. He is a former engineer at Tenaga Nasional Berhad (TNB).

He started his career in business since August 2010 and now he is an assistant director at Infokerjaya PLT.  While being an entrepreneur, he presented his thoughts after did some observation by translating it into writing. His writing origin is an ebook version that he transformed into the physical book that we can see now.
Update Our Brain! - Page 79; Chapter 21.
Update our brains! - Page 79; Chapter 21: That is one of the quotes in the book in English phrase. The writer is combining two languages in his quotes. The way he writes the messages in the book a little bit the same style as the book that I read before; 88 Love Life by Diana Rikasari and Dare To Fail by Billi Lim(Quotes Book). It isn't a hundred percent the same but for me it just the same.

Despite the pages total is 202 pages, the word count might be less than 3000 because the font is big and the paragraph was presented like the poems. The faster reader might finish the book only in a few minutes.

The book content has 53 chapters that every chapter represents as a secret of rich people.

What I'm Observe?(Apa Yang Saya Perhatikan?) - Syed Faiz | After I read this book, I wonder If I observe people and situations by heart | Book Review | Malaysian Book Blog | Malaysian Bookish | Malaysian Book Reviewer

Syed Faiz has already attracted people through the book's title. He uses the HATI; Heart word makes the bookworms curious about the book. If someone asked us about observe by heart, it must be something serious and deep thinking. So, That is one of the reasons I bought it.

The book also included the reader's testimonial in the earliest pages of the book. All the testimonials gave positive feedback about it.

Even though the book is not details about the secret of rich people, there still has a lot of moral value and lessons to readers.

  1. The lessons about the ants. Ant is the tiny insect that has so big courage and very hardworking. So, Syed Faiz wants the readers to make them an example to continue to work towards the goal. Ants are the unique creature that never gives up except dead!
  2. Adulthood makes people forgot how to be happy. Almost every human at an adult level has a lot of anxiety, worried, gloomy, and vague in making decisions. If your mind said, "Why I can't be happy in this world?", that is not others to blame but yourself. As an adult, we forget to be happy not because we're not happy. On page 20, the book telling people to learn how to be happy as a child. Observe them, they're always happy with small things. Why an adult can't? Plus, If you want to achieve something in your life, throwback your childhood sweet memories. How your spirit be something illogical as Power Rangers in your mind? So, why as an adult, we felt down to be better than 'Power Ranger' in real life?
  3. To achieve goals and dreams need commitment. It is normal if we feel tired and stress at some point. To accomplish all missions without challenges and obstacles are not real achievements.
  4. Have you read about the power of giving in any books? Give is a powerful attraction for us to approach success. What's more, if your giving is sincere and pure of heart. This book also discusses it.
  5. Learning is not specific for the student but it is for everybody. If we stop learning, then we let our brains die.
  6. Great things take time.

The book size is A6. So, book bosomed must fall in love with this pocketbook type of book. Because the book size makes it easy to carry in the bag.

Other than that, the writer's writing style is simple. He never uses complicated words in the book. So, I think the book very suitable to read in public (outdoor) that might be the place is not quite as the library. It's good for light reading.

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Same as other books. There are pros and cons. In my opinion, this book is more for advertising because the testimonial shows the name of the testimonial giver's business. For me, if you want to recommend a good book for people, we shouldn't have to share our business name. It is enough telling people your name to show you are a real person. Accept if the book is about business strategies that help your company got success achievement because of the book.

However, it doesn't mean the book is not a good book to read. The important thing is the content and moral value. I love all the topics (Chapters) in the book, especially that I've listed in the lessons section above (The greatness of this book).

For me, If I have the public library, I'll put this book in the library for all the lovely readers. Other than that, this book should in the school library too! So, teachers? Buy it for your students now. Why did I say the book suitable for students? That is because the book writing style is not complicated to understand.

The writer's purpose in the book is telling how to be positive people. Syed Faiz wants all readers to rise and don't give up or stop chasing our dream. He accomplishes that purpose in the book by writing it as simple as he can.

The simple writing and style make it suitable for students or someone who still a newbie in reading. Not everybody loves reading thousands of pages of a book because there are readers type in the world. Like me, I'm the note taker reader. I also love the details book and full of facts and information. But still, my weakness in reading the thick book is not fast. So, for me, the book is too simple and I'll choose to read it while I want to relax without taking notes. Yes, light reading.

Nevertheless, there one part of the book that I thought is not right. But, It is not wrong (big deal) either. The writer said, the book is the short story compilation. Based on my learning, the book is not a short story. That is very far from it. It is more to quotes, thoughts, opinion, or something like that. (Or "Kisah Pendek" is doesn't mean "Cerpen", right? Haha).

The style of language almost looks like a poem but there are no rhyme, rhythm, and alliteration. So, I think that also not poetry. Sometimes, Syed Faiz tried to make it looks poetic but the sound pretty bland and awkward.The writing style a little bit same with Faiz Ibrahim. But, I love his point of view and thoughts.

Other, the book also highlighted about the secrets of rich people sustain being rich. The book is more about rich people's psychology, attitude, behavior, and way of thinking. But the writer just wrote the basics. Undeniable, we may forget the basics either. So, It helps to remind the readers on the pros side of it. It's about rich people's minds. Rich people positive thinking. Those no such thing about the technique or technical strategies about how people become rich.

I guess, there must be many people misunderstood about the book if they only judge the book cover. The book is actually about the internal rich. The brain, soul, and heart. It is not about how to gain more money and being rich (materialistic/luxury). Maybe the book should have other suitable cover designs? Oh...sorry. I'm a visual person. So, I always analyze the book cover. Lols. It doesn't matter actually.

In conclusion, the book is not too bad but also not too good. It's just fine for light reading and uses it as a reminder for us about the related topics in the book.

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I Change by Dr.Muruga

Honestly, I took more than 2 weeks to finished my reading on this book. I read this book in August 2018. But I'm mentally breakdown for 6 months in 2019 (personal matter). So, I don't have the perfect mood for my writing in the SWBB (Silly Wonk Book Blog). After all, this blog dedicated to writing in English. It may cause stress on me at that time. So, I postponed my review writing on this book.

Released : 2012
Genre : Non-Fiction / Self-Help
Publisher : Wheatmark
Size : 14.8x21cm
Format : Paperback
Language : English

Alhamdulillah, I'm felt never better now. I'm super excited to continue my work on SWBB again. So, this is my review about this book on my SWBB. 6 years ago (7th December 2012), I bought this book in Harris Bookstore. It's located at 1 Borneo Hypermall, Kota Kinabalu, Sabah.

I selected this book because of the author's writing style. He never uses complicated vocabulary. So, it's easy for me to read it as a beginner. Back then ( In 2012), I can't finish this book because of my weakness in the English language.  So, I've to postpone it again until I did finish this book last year.
Thank god! I got the victory a lot. I'm glad to know all the messages in the book because it's very motivating to be a better person.

The I Change is written by Dr. Muruga. The best-selling author of The Easy UC Way. It is the motivation book or self-help genre. It's known as the self-improvement book category too.
The book is teaching the reader how to have true happiness by changing ourselves to be a better person. The book telling the reader that we should accept the truth that all the reason we unhappy with life is our own responsibilities.

The thickness of the book is less than one centimeter. Even tho the book is not thick, the content still packed with great pieces of information. The book has no illustration. Obviously, suitable for adults. The author; Dr. Muruga is the best selling author, as well as a management and performance consultant, trainer, and coach based in Malaysia. The principal consultant of Creative Beings Consultancy, he shares his ideas of empowering individuals in his second book, I change, which he believes can transform people, organizations, and countries.

The book cover is simple and used a bright and attractive color; red. The title has an eye captured. It's a bold and big font. The book has eight chapters as below:

  1. Why "I Change"?
  2. Chinese Parable: Mei Lin's Story
  3. Acting Above the line
  4. Reflections for "I Change"
  5. What Is It That I Have to "I Change"
  6. "I Change" in the Workplace
  7. AABB at Home and in Personal Roles
  8. When Elephants Run

The topic in the book very neatly arranged. So, the reader very easy to adapt to the message. Readers also can follow step by step to change towards goodness. It's compile with examples and interesting stories.

The book included the test for the reader knows how far they need to change themself. Some people don't realize which area they need to change. So, Dr. Muruga put some test to reveal the roots of the problem in life that makes people unhappy.

The stories in the book are based on a real story from an author's clients. Through the stories, the reader can learn and understand why humans don't happy with their lives such as in the workplace, career, partner, situations, and so on.

An example, Mei Lin's story is about Mei Lin's failure in trying to impress her mother-in-law on page seven (7). Nina who caught her husband, Rashid, cheating on her on page thirty-four (34). And Jason who felt unappreciated and unhappy in his organization on page thirty-seven (37).

The book is related to almost everything in life. In a relationship (wife and husband, worker and the boss, etc), parenthood (Daughters and sons), teenager's behavior, business, and personal life.
A lot of books will tell you how to transform your life as you want. But, rarely to explain why your effort to change or upgrade your life failed. Maybe you already living a good life but still unhappy. Why? The I Change explains in detail the cause its happened to so many people.

Other than that, in chapter four, page twenty-five (25), Dr. Muruga put a beautiful poem that makes the reader can deeply understand the process of the I Change.

There a lot of transformation guidance in the book by Dr. Muruga. It is very useful for everyone who wants their life to gain a lot of happiness and successful results.

1. Indeed, most people want to change themself to be the best. Especially for themself. To be the best means we need new behavior; the good ones to help us achieve what we want. Unfortunately, many people don't realize that they are only at the second level of an effort to change. It's pathetic when they start to stop chasing the result of the best transformation.

The book has stated that, don't give up and keep going on your passion and your dreams until you at the third level.
"Knowing what to do is just the first level. Doing it in a sustained manner is the second level, and last but most importantly, it is the third level; getting the desired results effectively." - Page viii
2. People believe they are unhappy because of the people around them. Or the situation. Or other people's behavior and actions. People generally expect others to change first. People do forget the best thing is "I Change first".
"This book is about you changing first, and then others changing around you. There is no other way." - Page ix
3. Stop acting below the line (Complaints, blame, excuses, and justification). Start acting above the line (Responsibility and Accountability.

"Acting above the line" on page eight-teen (18) is something that an author learned from a seminar he attended. If you want to know more about it, you need to read the book on your own.

Honest, the I Change obviously slap my face a lot. The truth that I need to face considerably rip my ego. However, I positively allow my awareness to change my bad behavior. The book makes an enthusiastic circumstance that convinces me to forget my ego behind.

After I reached on page VI in the book, I was stunned about the transformation level facts. I realize that I know what to do in changing my behavior to the better ones. But, I forgot about the importance level of the changing process. That is getting the desired results effectively.

To get at the third level is not an easy thing. Especially to maintain the motivation and discipline that I need to commit. I was confused because I don't know how to keep myself always motivated by my passion and my mission when the situation makes me down.

I started to wonder about how to handle the situation that makes people down. Because we need to keep obedient to our discipline of new behavior. In my opinion, feeling down and disappointed is not a helpful feeling to keep us always in a good mood. Unfortunately, we can't run from that situation in life.

So, I kept reading the I Change. I'm eager to know how to handle that kind of situation. Because in the past I have a little bad experience in my workplace. The story of Jason on page thirty-seven is a little bit the same as mine. I'm happy at first but after four years of working, I felt unappreciated and unhappy in that company.

As the book explains, people want to change and upgrade themselves. Yes, me too. Back then, I was doing all my best and I felt useless when I haven't got a salary increment and a big bonus. I blamed my boss for that. I thought my boss is not good enough. I immediately unhappy and resigned for another job.

The manager disbelief that I did that. She tried to investigate what was going on but I definitely left her and the company. After reading the book, I have realized that I became weaker by depending on others for happiness and survival in the company. I depend on my manager and my colleagues to be happy. The consequence, I'm not surviving. I also don't have the desire to challenge myself to be the best employee in the company though I have good opportunities at that time.

On page fifty-six in the book, Dr. Muruga explains the causes of my situation is I felt unappreciated and I misunderstood due to needing external appreciation. Based on the page, I need to build my self-esteem and self-belief.

That will change me from the situation of requiring external expression and appreciation. Then, becoming the true self and have an internal appreciation. Besides that, I must filter my belief system either. The manager also a human. She only doing her job; it's not personal. She is also a person that might have her own problems and makes mistakes.

I also learned about non-verbal communication and the AABB concept thru the I Change. AABB is Acceptance (Problem and situation - the challenge to change), Awareness (Sense the unwritten and unsaid), Belief System (Belief filters), and Behavior (Stay committed to new behavior). You have to read the whole book to understand AABB.

After I understand the AABB, I feel more motivated for my target in my life. However, I have to often read the book. To keep reminding me the concept of the I Change. I have applied the AABB in my personal roles and I got a better result for my marriage life. Despite that, I still need improvement in other areas such as in my reading and writing.

I love the contents of this book very much. It helps people to manage life better. What the message that I love the most in the book is the I Change process warning from Dr.Muruga. I'm targeting to buy his another book (first book) titled The Easy UC Way in 2020. I hope I'll found that book.

In conclusion, the book is highly recommended to read by everyone; workers, bosses, students, married couples, parents, entrepreneurs, and the person who wants to have true happiness in life.

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